Initially, he said we should go our separate ways. I don’t care! In terms of adults, sure, loving connection is an essential part of an adult’s life… but that doesn’t mean that you need one specific kind of love from one specific person. I suggest you go to the “forum” section on this board and respost your question. of the seduction tactics in this book could easily be classified as "unfair." Society tells you that things from the outside will make you happy. The Art of Seduction: Make Him Feel Like “The Man.” We talked about the mindset, now we’re going to talk about what kind of behavior seduces a man. For example, maybe you want to seduce a guy into your bed, but the underlying reason is because you don’t really feel attractive, and you think that successfully seducing him will prove that you are. I said I thought life wasn’t worth fighting for. And I usually post my strategies and screenshots of conversations on my Snapchat – my friends call me Savage but I like Seductress way more. Bravo! But maybe that will all be in your Part II. Actually, since I am very happy and confortable with my life, the relationships with men changed towards enjoying them as persons and also I have more guys flirting me. You are open, honest and not beating around the bush. It’s so well written and the information is well organized. Anxiously awaiting the second part! The woman then senses that the man is losing attraction, which causes her more anxiety, which further destroys her vibe and… well… that’s usually where the guy exits. I am struggling with the concept of: “First off, presenting something to a guy and then withholding it puts the attention on what you’re withholding… instead of on you. He’s terribly gun shy now. So I’m not worried about you “getting it”… I just wanted to clarify the points about being feminine since I didn’t in the article (and as of today I haven’t edited the article to include those points). Can I still get him “back to the game”? Femininity is all about being soft and alluring even when disagreeing, arguing or fighting i.e communicating in a feminine manner. It is great that they are being encouraged to follow their dreams and do what they want, but when we start to make some girls feel bad for not wanting take STEM classes , we have tipped the scales in the opposite direction. Flirt with him, create some awkward situations, unexpected touches, and want to chase women? Stop wasting your time on bad matches… This isn’t your husband. Forget about seduction for a bit and just focus on living with that understanding for a bit (the understanding that happiness is something you BRING to life, always, and that it’s not something you extract from events/circumstances). If I’m seducing him, I’m making him enjoy every moment with me, and unfortunately for me, that means he won’t feel the need to take me out, right? It’s the opposite of what society tells you about happiness…. Thanks for the comment! I’m not saying you need to act like Marilyn Monroe or Audrey Hepburn or whatever else you think looks like being feminine…. Not distracted energy. Remember your seducing him, not playing games. For example, don’t outright tell a guy that you think he’s hot stuff… instead, create desire within him and allow him the space to reach for more of you. He acted interested at first and now feels like he’s rejecting me and totally ignoring me. Fire her desire. What about a guy who is single for long long time now, choosing to be alone and sacrifice himself to his job entirely after being dumped by his wife short after being married. I don’t usually care about it personally but it usually starts off this spiral of negative thinking in my thinking that ruins almost every relationship I’ve ever had: I start thinking, why doesn’t he think I’m worth taking out? This guy is a complete mistery for me. Still doesn’t actually. ;-) . Let’s celebrate each person instead of trying to make everyone the same. Thank you… and hey, nothing wrong with having a mindset towards being effective. If you’re feeling sexy, act on it. OK, so now let’s talk about how to turn a guy on…. It’s going to take you out of the moment and kill your vibe. Thank you, Eva, PS: I’m sorry about some grammatical mistakes. Please any suggestions is appreciated. I told him this during our last conversation, but right now he is keeping his distance. And I want a guy who I can talk to about what’s going on in my head. I see his point of view. So instead of thinking of confidence as something you need to have or do, just think of it as giving up on worrying about your attractiveness. @thepartygyal. A Beginner’s Guide To Dating Success, How To Set Up An Awesome Zoosk Profile And Meet Your Match, Quarantine Date Ideas For When You Don’t Know What To Do, How To Foster Different Types Of Intimacy In A Relationship, Star Sign Compatibility: Who The Stars Say You Should Be Dating, The Benefits Of Sex: Why You Should Be Doing It More, Relationship Moods: How To Manage A Moody Partner. Please give me advice how to make him fall for me or what I should do. The prioritization of what’s going on in “the moment” over what’s going on in my head is kind of concerning to me, because I give the latter so much more importance personally and am wondering exactly how long I’ll have to have a “Fun, happy, carefree” before I can start being my true self: someone serious, cerebral and analytical. 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